• being aware of how our past impacts the present Apr 15, 2019 - [DOWNLOAD PDF] Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Day by Day A 40Day Journey with the Daily Office Free Epub/MOBI/EBooks Journey Through The Wall – Kevin Swanson Materials: Participants need to purchase three books prior to the first session: 1. Problems is that the spirituality of most discipleship models only adds an additional protective layer against people growing up emotionally. Contemplative Spirituality focuses on classic practices and concerns such as: o awakening and surrendering to God’s love in any and every situation 6) Doing for God instead of being with God Some examples of using God to run from God are: • Doing God’s work to satisfy me, not him Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Session 1. Accountability is the only thing that can break the past. The bible records endless accounts of the failures and weaknesses of men and women of faith, but we go to great lengths to cover up and silence any assault on our character. Both are necessary to loving God, loving ourselves and loving others. 8. He was an emotionally healthy man, who dealt with his emotions well both privately and publicly. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality You can’t be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature. Scripture calls us to “come and die” when we trust in Christ for salvation … The pathway out of this disconnect is radical. There is no way over, under or around the wall. Judging other people’s spiritual journey is not our job. Letting go of power and control. ISBN: 9780310085218 ISBN 10: 0310085217 Imprint: Zondervan On Sale: 2017-04-25 List Price: $39.99 Publisher: Zondervan Series: Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Publication Date: 2017-04-25 Trim Size: 136.000mm x 190.000mm x 12.000mm Weight: 117.000gr Category 1 : RELIGION / Biblical Studies / Bible Study Guides Category 2 : RELIGION / Christian Life / Spiritual Growth To cut them out of our spirituality is to slice off part of our humanity. Develop A Rule Of Life – Kevin Swanson The 7 Pathways to Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: Session 2 Know Yourself That You May Know God 29. Session 4 Quit Denying Anger, Sadness, and Fear 41. 9) Living without limits Chapter 3 – The Radical Antidote: Emotional Health & Contemplative Spirituality Daily Office (10 minutes) Do one of the Daily Offices from Week 1 of Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Day by Day to begin your session. Alternative: Journey through the Wall – Peter Scazzero (starts at 17:50), Session 5: Only difference in Level One is that members of that family actually “delight” in one another. o resting attentively in the presence of God We may incorporate God’s people into our daily life and welcome them into our household, but do we meet all the daily responsibilities of life together with the same sacred concern? It can come in the form of a job loss, the death of a loved one or a divorce. Geri Scazzero is the author of the bestselling books, The Emotionally Healthy Woman and The Emotionally Healthy Woman Workbook/DVD, and co-author of Emotionally Healthy Spirituality & Emotionally Healthy Relationships. Discover More. Session 2 Quit Lying 23. Self-care is never a selfish act – it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have: my life. Session 1: The Problem With Emotionally Unhealthy Spirituality – Peter Ahn Alternative: Defining the Problem – Dan Milette. People that live in climates prone to blizzards learn to center themselves in their surroundings so that they can always find their way home. Session 7, "Grow into an Emotionally Mature Adult," teaches that the marks of true spirituality include not only loving God but also the skill of loving others maturely. This refers to a persons capacity to define his or her own life’s goals and values apart from the pressures of those around them. o practicing silence, solitude, and a life of unceasing prayer Events; EHL ONE DAY; Vault Vault. So much of our true self is buried alive. Few of us came from families where conflict was resolved in a mature and healthy way. There in that place of quietness, the true Sabbath rest is found in contemplation of God himself. I give myself and others the right to: space, different preferences, disagreement, being heard, being taken seriously, giving the benefit of the doubt in uncertainty, telling the truth, consulting when necessary, allowing to make mistakes, being courteous and taking one another’s feelings into account. But more often we carry moral superiority into our view of the rest of the world beyond our direct control. Don’t live someone else’s life, but find the joy and gifts God has for yours. The ability to really listen and pay attention to people was at the very heart of his mission, and it is what moved his heart to compassion. Alternative: Enlarging Your Soul through Grief & Loss – Larry Wilson Emotional health and contemplative spirituality offer three gifts when integrated well: 1. the gift of slowing down – to pause, listen, adjust and recognize God’s voice The rules of the system are more important that the individuals. • Hiding behind God talk, deflecting any spotlight on my inner cracks and being defensive about my failures. No one welcomes public exposure, so everyone has their own way of covering over brokenness, weakness and failure. • grieving well. It is the two together – emotional health and contemplative spirituality – that release great power to transform our spiritual lives, our small groups, and our churches. Breaking free requires learning to feel, learning to distinguish thinking and feeling, and finally, summoning the courage to follow my God-given “true self” rather than the voices and demands around me. 3. • Exaggerating my accomplishments for God to subtly compete with others Session 2: • Doing things in his name that he never asked me to do For a spiritual leader to take a necessary rest is a gift to everyone – for his soul, for his family, and for those who now have permission to admit that they need a rest too. This workbook serves as a companion resource to theEmotionally Healthy Spirituality CourseDVD, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Day by Daydevotional, and the bestselling book, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality. 10) Judging other people’s spiritual journey. Using God to run from God (Example: My prayers are usually about God doing my will, not me surrendering to His.) The wall is a crisis that turns our world upside down. By God’s grace, we are to be the freest people on earth. Jesus lived faithfully to his true self. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Workbook Register online to attend then email Andrew Berg for scholarship reimbursement. Chapter 10 – Go the Next Step to Develop a “Rule of Life” It never entered my mind that God might be speaking to me in the “feeling” realm in a way that did not compromise with his truth. In The Emotionally Healthy Woman, Geri Scazzero provides you a way out of an inauthentic, superficial spirituality to genuine freedom in Christ.This book is for every woman who thinks, "I can't keep pretending everything is fine!" Enlarging Your Soul Through Grief & Loss – Josh Olivero 7) Spiritualizing away conflict Books about Theology: Christian Theology. The author outlines four levels of emotional maturity from infancy, children, adolescents and adults, each with its own outlook, relational capacities and reactions to life. Levels Two and One: The Adequate Family and The Optimal Family. Just categorizing people in our minds is sin, as is eliminating others who don’t move at our pace spiritually. Jesus practice the presence of God and of people. God has a different path for each of us. We are going to look at the connection between our spiritual growth and our emotional growth. In diagnosis we are given … Not in chaos or under a dictatorship, but feeling loved and approved depends on obeying spoken and unspoken rules. 2. On the other side is freedom from pride, avarice, materialism, irritation, spiritual gluttony, spiritual envy and sloth. 4) Denying the past’s impact on the present Discern which of the top ten symptoms of emotionally unhealthy spirituality are present in your life: 1) Using God to run from God. If you make it to the end of this list in the first five years, what about the next 75 years? On page 24 of the book, Scazzero lists the top 10 symptoms of emotionally unhealthy spirituality.I found the list and his subsequent commentary on the items helpful, so I figured I would include some of … I don’t have to detach from you, reject you, avoid you, or criticize you to be myself. Leaders Guide 91. (86) I truly believe the greatest gift we can give the world is our true self living in loving union with God. The goal is to move from “I-It” relationships to “I-Thou” relationships, which can only exist between two people who recognize each other as made in the image of God and are willing to connect across their differences in a sacred space. They did not link loving God with the need to be diligent, zealous, and absolutely committed to growing in their ability to love people. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: Developing Authentic Maturity in Christ, in Yourself and Others Pete Scazzero How to Use This Tool This Conference Classics process tool is designed to accompany an audio recording of a Willow Creek Association conference session. Chapter 7 – Enlarge Your Soul Through Grief and Loss Which of these symptoms are most relevant to your life? 2) Ignoring the emotions of anger, sadness or fear The elements of a Rule of Life include: scripture, silence and solitude, the daily office, study, Sabbath, recreation, mission, care for the physical body, emotional health, family and community. September 27, 2009. The author of the book asserts that the right measure of emotional health and contemplative spirituality is the radical antidote. This website uses cookies to improve your experience. The Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Workbook includes session introductions, group discussion questions, application, and between sessions personal study. o finding the true essence of who we are in God He was secure in his identity and his father’s love, so he was able to endure an enormous amount of pressure. o understanding our earthly life as a journey of transformation toward ever-increasing union with God 8) Covering over brokenness, weakness and failure The real beauty and joy of life is to discover the “otherness” of others – that allows true love. This can be especially problematic in the home of a pastor. We'll assume you're ok with this, but you can opt-out if you wish. God often works to get our attention to what lies beneath through pain, disappointment or loss. (89) True spirituality frees us to live joyfully in the present. Session 3 Quit Dying to the Wrong Things 33. Change comes through brutal honesty and vulnerability before God – in the place of Grace. Ignoring the emotions of anger, sadness, and fear (Example: I am rarely honest with myself and/or others about the feelings, hurts, and pains beneath the surface of my life.) We know something is wrong but we just keep trying harder to practice spiritual disciplines a little better. Duration: 19:18. Geri quit being afraid of what others think. It is ultimately the way we see and treat people and the way we look at ourselves. The emotionally mature adult recognizes that loving well is the essence of true spirituality. Product Details. We grieve the many things we cannot do, which represent our limits. Dying to th… I can be myself apart from you. Emotionally Healthy Leadership ONE DAY October 22 | 12pm - 4pm ET. 3. the gift of breaking free from illusions – idols are smashed, gain the power and wisdom to stop pretending, and clarity how to stop living someone else’s life. So most Christians actually lie a lot – to themselves and to others. The concept of differentiation applies here. November 19, 2020 Read More Run Together November 12, 2020 Read More Run Together November 5, 2020 Read More 1 2 3 … 16 Next » EQUIPPING RESOURCES Growth Track Growth Track Online 2020 – Participants Manual Emotionally Healthy Spirituality by Peter Scazzero… Contemplation is not simply about our relationship with God. This is also compartmentalizing, and the compartment for home and family can get smaller and smaller without exercising the right freedoms to love and care for them as much as he does the church. Characteristics of life on the other side of the wall include: a greater level of brokenness, a greater appreciation for Holy Mysteries, a deeper ability to wait for God, and a greater detachment. The vast majority of us go to our graves without knowing who we are. The Problem With Emotionally Unhealthy Spirituality – Peter Ahn Chapter 2 – The Top Ten Symptoms of Emotionally Unhealthy Spirituality We cannot give what we do not possess. Rigid ways of thinking where disagreement is not allowed. The dynamic allows for flexibility and cherishes each individual. Dying to the wrong things. The Pharisees never delighted in people but rather scorned them. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Day by Day will anchor your life on the invitation to love God with all your heart, mind, and strength. He knew his own value and worth, so the term selfless does not accurately reflect his world view. To feel is to be human. Each person must develop their own “Rule of Life” in terms of prayer, rest, work and relationships. Alternative: Discovering the Rhythms of the Daily Office & Sabbath – Elisha Cho, Session 7: Breaking the power of the past. You can refer to the tool while Chapter 8 – Discover the Rhythms of the Daily Office and Sabbath Stage 6 – Transformed into life of love. Level Three: The Rule-Bound Family. For Christian leaders, we try harder because we know many are watching. Becoming your authentic self, St. Teresa of Avila wrote in The Way of Perfection, “Almost all problems in the spiritual life stem from a lack of self-knowledge.” John Calvin wrote in Institutes of Christian Religion, “Our wisdom… consists almost entirely of two parts: the knowledge of God and of ourselves.”. Underneath the surface, our relationships bears a striking resemblance to our first relationships with parents, siblings and friends of our youth. • identifying with and having active compassion for others We all missed it. Unleash a revolution in your life in Christ. Know Yourself That You May Know God – Peter Ahn Unconsciously, we live someone else’s life, or at least someone else’s expectations of us. We have a responsibility to teach and correct a limited number of people sometimes, with humility and love. Differentiation involves the ability to hold on to who you are and who you are not. Notes 105 He rewrote his life script according to Scripture. THE WALL To the degree that we are unable to express our emotions, we remain impaired in our ability to love God, love others and love ourselves as well. In the early stages of the spiritual journey, one learns the value of attending church for worship and communion, one develops a quiet time and then seeks out spiritual nourishment, fellowship and bible study with other Christians. Emotional health is concerned with such things as: • Read chapter 1 of the Emotionally Healthy Spirituality book. This requires that we experience true connection with God, with ourselves and with other people. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Session 8"Go the Next Step to Develop a 'Rule of Life'" o allowing our Christian lives to be shaped by the rhythms of the Christian calendar rather than the culture; and The Problem of Emotionally Unhealthy Spirituality. This new series is entitled, “Back to School.” It is back to school because of the time of year but also because we are going to examine emotionally healthy spirituality. Session 1 The Problem of Emotionally Unhealthy Spirituality 15. Peter Scazzero learned the hard way: you can't be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature. But King David was different. We are to die to the sinful parts of who we are – such as defensiveness, detachment from others, arrogance, stubbornness, hypocrisy, judgmentalism and lack of vulnerability – as well as the more obvious outward sins. In our culture, addiction has become the most common way to deal with the pain of loss. Stage 4 – Journey inward Stage 5 – Journey outward Alternative: Knowing Yourself To Know God – Dan Milette, Session 3: Stage 1 – Life-changing awareness of God Based primarily on how they understand their boundaries, families are able to classify themselves along five different levels of health. Where is the school of emotional health and well-being? Click on the following titles to view the session videos on YouTube from other denominational churches: Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Introduction – Peter Scazzero. 2) Ignoring emotions of anger, sadness, and fear. o communing with God, allowing him to fully indwell the depth of our being He honestly faced the sadness and losses of his family, and resolved them in God. Following are the top ten symptoms of emotionally unhealthyspirituality. Because we have multiple roles and communities of involvement, it’s easy to compartmentalize life into the sacred and profane. 5) Diving our lives into “secular” and “sacred” compartments • Demonstrating spiritual behaviors so that significant people will think well of me Session 6 Quit Overfunctioning 61. Chapter 5 – Going Back in Order to Go Forward Confusion and turmoil. Beyond this, one starts to give financially and seek to discover and develop one’s spiritual gifts. Instead of anarchy, a dictator rules with black and white precepts. But we put up a veneer that “I am ok”, and hope that other people nor circumstance will tear through and show us for who we really are. Our activity for God can only properly flow from a life with God. But he was, and we need permission to consider our feelings rightly or end up “leaking” all over the people around us. Emotionally Healthy Spirituality 2. But our God feels deeply, and when we deny our pain, losses and feelings we become less human. 1) Using God to run from God 2) Ignoring the emotions of anger, sadness or fear 3) Dying to the wrong things 4) Denying the past’s impact on the present 5) Diving … Diagnosing the problem, 1) Using God to run from God o positioning ourselves to hear God and remember his presence in all we do Chapter 2 – The Top Ten Symptoms of Emotionally Unhealthy Spirituality Diagnosing the problem. Jesus summarized the entire bible in this command: “Love the Lord your God… and love your neighbor as yourself.”. Written in 1960, Letters sent by Emily (Dobranski) Sawicki, my maternal grandmother, Some Letters I & My Sister Got from Harvey and Alice Jesmer in the 1970’s, The Nugent Family Move To Southern California in 1948, Audio Bible messages by Kevin Jesmer-Judges, Audio Bible Messages by Kevin Jesmer-Mark, Bible Schools – Lost and Found (6/29-7/1-2012). 1. Alternative: Going Back to Go Forward – Larry Wilson, Session 4: Good feelings and trust allow to work through conflicts. • breaking free from self-destructive patterns o loving others out of a life of love for God • initiating and maintaining close and meaningful relationships Alternative: Growing Toward Emotional Maturity – Dan Milette, Session 8: Joshua 8. Silence and solitude are so foundational to emotionally healthy spirituality that they are a theme repeated throughout this book. 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